Talking with kids about the recessionBy Jason Alderman
The past year has been rough financially for many folks. You probably know people who have lost their jobs, seen their retirement savings evaporate or experienced home foreclosure – you may even be in a tough spot yourself.
It's difficult enough to remain optimistic yourself, but if you've got children, the task is doubly hard: You want to be honest about why your family can't afford the same things right now, but you don't want to telegraph your anxieties and overwhelm them with dire news they may not understand and over which they have no control.
Rather than conveying panic, look for ways to reassure your kids that you are working hard to make things better and that the whole family can chip in to help.
My wife and I are using the current economic situation as an educational jumping-off point for our two children, ages 5 and 9. Here are a few of the strategies you might want to try:
Put prices into perspective. When your kids clamor for a new toy or treat and you'd rather not spend the money, don't simply say you can't afford it. Put the cost into perspective by noting how long they would have to save their allowance or how many additional chores it would take to pay for it.
This exercise helps kids better understand the process adults use to decide whether a purchase is worth making or not. (It works better with older kids, who more easily grasp the passage of time and the concept of delayed gratification.)
Involve children in everyday spending decisions. You probably bring your kids along when grocery shopping and like most of us, you've probably endured pleading for sugary snacks and cheap toys. Instead of racing through the store hoping to avoid conflict, use shopping as an opportunity to teach your kids the value of money.
Make them part of the decision-making process, starting with helping to create the shopping list (the best way to avoid impulse purchases) and clipping coupons. Share your shopping budget for the trip and explain the consequences of exceeding it. Then, once you're at the store, enlist their help in making price comparisons and give them a voice when choosing one item over another – that way, you won't arbitrarily be the "no" voice.
Get kids' suggestions for ways to curtailing spending. Maybe it means checking out a DVD from the library rather than going to the movies, holding a garage sale or selling unwanted toys or clothes on eBay, or babysitting the neighbor's kids to replace a temporarily reduced allowance. In short, make them part of the solution.
Share stories from your own childhood. Maybe one of your parents lost their job or your family had to move in with a relative temporarily. Share how that made you feel (frightened, sad, embarrassed), but let them know that by working together as a family things eventually worked out.
Get involved with charities. If they're old enough, volunteer with your kids at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter. Nothing will make them appreciate their own situation like witnessing others who aren't as fortunate.
This article is intended to provide general information and should not be considered tax or financial advice. It's always a good idea to consult a tax or financial advisor for specific information on how tax laws apply to your situation and about your individual financial situation.<< Back to Practical Money Matters
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